The Genderqueer Conundrum

Hello! My name is Andrea Albamonte and I am PFLAG’s newest volunteer. If you care about identities, I usually identify myself as a pansexual genderqueer. I’m halfway through college and have recently abandoned the idea of being a chemistry major. I have yet to pick a major that fits my career aspirations. I’m excited about working towards social change with PFLAG!

I’ve lived in Fairfax County my entire life. My friends and I created our high school’s gay-straight alliance. All throughout high school I was our GSA’s token straight girl. I was always terrified that someone was going to give us trouble, but except for the occasional obnoxious person when the club was initially created, people mostly left us alone. I always knew there was something different about me; I just couldn’t for the life of me tell you what it was. Even in a high school GSA, the words “pansexual genderqueer” never came up. I had no words to describe why I felt different. It wasn’t until my second year of college that I would discover websites showing people I could actually relate to, such as and

The issues that affect transgender, transsexual, genderqueer, androgynous and all gender fluid people are a little different from that of the LGB community. Gender neutral bathrooms, gender neutral housing at universities, including gender reassignment in medical insurance policies, the ease and ability for a name change, are issues that affect the gender fluid. Non-discrimination policies and hate crime legislation are important as well and affect the entire spectrum of LGBT etc. people. However, they are especially important for transgendered and gender-fluid people, because they are more likely to be victims of hate crimes (

I’m fascinated with the concept of gender. Think about all of the gendered spaces you take for granted, everything that is separated by gender, all of the documents where you have to specify your gender. A bathroom, locker room, clothing store, dorm rooms, sports, your driver’s license and passport. Is separating these things by gender necessary? Leave your answers in the comments. I’d love to hear your thoughts on gender.


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